Beautiful Me

Beautiful Me

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I just want to know why the people fall in love?
Its really a big question for me.

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> > >> I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do
> > >> is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't
> > >> care back.
> > >> I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds
> > >> to destroy it.
> > >> I've learned that it's not what you have in your life,  but who you
> > >> have in your life that counts.
> > >> I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes.
> > >> After that, you'd better know something.
> > >> I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others
> > >> can do, but to the best you can do.
> > >> I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important.
> > >> It's what they do about it.
> > >> I've learned that you can do something in an instant that will give
> > >> you a heartache for life.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always
> > >> two sides.
> > >> I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I
> > >> want to be.
> > >> I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
> > >> I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving
> > >> words. It may be the last time you see them.
> > >> I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
> > >> I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how
> > >> we feel.
> > >> I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls
> > >> you.
> > >> I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is
> > >> at first,  the passion fades and there had better be something else
> > >> to take its place.
> > >> I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
> > >> when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
> > >> I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.
> > >> I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just
> > >> don't know how to do it.
> > >> I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when
> > >> you're down may be the ones to help you get back up.
> > >> I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm
> > >> kinda happy about it.
> > >> I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be
> > >> angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
> > >> I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the
> > >> longest distance.   Same goes for true love.
> > >> I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you
> > >> want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
> > >> I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of
> > >> experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to
> > >> do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
> > >> I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are
> > >> unlikely or outlandish.  Few things are more humiliating, and what a
> > >> tragedy it would be if she believed it.
> > >> I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may
> > >> seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you
and
> > >> love you and teach you to trust people again.  Families aren't
> > >> biological.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're
> > >> going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them
for
> > >> that.
> > >> I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
> > >> Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world
> > >> doesn't stop for your grief.
> > >> I've learned that our background and circumstances may have
> > >> influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
> > >> I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to
> > >> choose sides even when I don't want to.
> > >> I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean
> > >> they don't love each other.
> > >> I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of
> > >> their actions.
> > >> I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand
> > >> that friends change.
> > >> I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in
> > >> your underwear drawer.
> > >> I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It
> > >> could change your life forever.
> > >> I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most
> > >> holes in them.
> > >> I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and
> > >> see something totally different.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children,
> > >> they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process. I've
> > >> learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
> > >> I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are  honest
> > >> with themselves, get further in life.
> > >> I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick
> > >> is self-control.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are
> > >> their pillar,  you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need
> > >> them most.
> > >> I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by
> > >> people who don't even know you.
> > >> I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when
> > >> a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
> > >> I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional
> > >> pains.
> > >> I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered
> > >> to us.
> > >> I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent
> > >> human being.
> > >> I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken
> > >> from you too soon.
> > >> I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different
> > >> meanings, it loses value when overly used.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how fast or how far you go, you can't
> > >> outrun God.
> > >> I've learned that no matter how far away I've been, God will always
> > >> welcome me back.
> > >> I've learned that love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the
> > >> next person I see.
> > >> I've learned that even if you do the right thing for the wrong
> > >> reason, it's still the wrong thing to do.

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes, it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut way all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.

Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.'

"I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them. 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

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a story to live by

by Ann Wells, Los Angeles Times

My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's bureau and
lifted out a tissue-wrapped package. "This," he said, "is not a slip.
This is lingerie." He discarded the tissue and handed me the slip. It
was exquisite; silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. The
price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached. "Jan
bought this the first time we went to New York, at least 8 or 9 years
ago. She never wore it. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well,
I guess this is the occasion." He took the slip from me and put it on
the bed with the other clothes we were taking to the mortician. His
hands lingered on the soft material for a moment, then he slammed the
drawer shut and turned to me. "Don't ever save anything for a special
occasion. Every day you're alive is a special occasion."

I remembered those words through the funeral and the days that
followed when I helped him and my niece attend to all the sad chores
that follow an unexpected death. I thought about them on the plane
returning to California from the Midwestern town where my sister's
family lives. I thought about all the things that she hadn't seen or
heard or done. I thought about the things that she had done without
realizing that they were special. I'm still thinking about his words,
and they've changed my life.

I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on the deck and admiring
the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden.

I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time in
committee meetings. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of
experience to savor, not endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments
now and cherish them.

I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and crystal for every
special event-such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, the
first camellia blossom.

I wear my good blazer to the market if I feel like it. My theory is if
I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of
groceries without wincing.

I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties; clerks in hardware
stores and tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my
party-going friends'.

"Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my
vocabulary. If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and
hear and do it now. I'm not sure what my sister would have done had
she known that she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take for
granted.

It's those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew
that my hours were limited. Angry because I put off seeing good friends
whom I was going to get in touch with-someday. Angry because I hadn't
written certain letters that I intended to write-one of these days.
Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and daughter often enough
how much I truly love them.

I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that
would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I
open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special. Every day, every
minute, every breath truly is...a gift from God.